Paul ([info]outintexas) wrote,
@ 2008-01-28 20:14:00
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Entry tags:breakup, brian, food, friends, movie

No, really, I'm OK
Last weekend was really rough, but this weekend was fine.

I spent most of the week working of course, but I also got away to see a movie and to have dinner with friends. And of course I went out Friday! I also went to brunch with a friend on Sunday, and then out for Sunday happy hour too. And seriously, through the therapy of good friends and not letting myself hole-up in my house and wallow, I'm really doing okay now. The shock, the anger, and the hurt are pretty much in the past now.

Nobody is more surprised by this than me, to be honest. The last time I was dumped, some fifteen and a half years ago, it took me months to recover, and calling it years wouldn't be unreasonable. It's nice to see I've grown emotionally and am more able to handle and deal with set-backs and shocks to the system like this. Shake it off, and move forward... don't wallow, don't look back, but just get on with getting on with life, and know when I deserve better.

All of which, of course, doesn't change the fact that I still want to know what the hell happened! :-) I mean, really... after two days of silent treatment (and having not seen him in almost two weeks) I go to his door to see what's up, and get it slammed and locked in my face without a word. What could possibly justify that in his mind? I'd love to find out. But I'm not counting on it. And I'm certainly not depending on it. It would, however, be a nice parting gift, should it ever come to pass.

But back to my week... I saw "Cloverfield" on Wednesday night, and it was pretty okay for what it is, which is a straight-forward monster-movie with a little "Blair Witch" twist. Unfortunately, that twist, while initially interesting, left me feeling mildly motion-sick about half-way through the movie. Eh, it's worth a matinee if you're into monster movies. If you're not, it's certainly nothing special, so nothing lost :-)

I also made a lovely Chocolate Amaretto Swiss Roll for dessert to bring to dinner with my friends on Thursday night, and Friday night, we all went out early, got drunk, and spent two hours stuffing our faces at P.F. Changs.

Sunday I had a great conversation over eggs and pancakes with Amy, and later that evening went out with more friends at happy hour, and even ran into a lot of people from the cruise. I had a great time, and a very interesting talk with another friend I've never been that close with before. I honestly think that's changing, and that's a good thing, because I've always liked him and his partner. And of course I stuffed my face on free happy-hour food.

Which brings me to my last point. The one drawback to getting over the depression as quickly as I did is that my weight loss plateaued at about 7 lbs, and is likely to regress from there the way I've been eating lately :-) Oh well...

You can't have everything I guess. Nope. You sure can't.



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[info]streamsandpools
2008-01-29 02:52 am UTC (link)
So glad you're mending swiftly from this. Yay for self esteem and good friends and all that good stuff. Xx

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[info]outintexas
2008-01-29 04:57 am UTC (link)
Yeah, friends -- both virtual and physical -- have been a great help in just focusing things for me. I'll be ultimately better off for all this. I had a good and fun two months, and this last (approaching a) month doesn't change that or sully that. It sucks, make no mistake, but I'm no worse off than I was three months ago, and quite possibly better off.

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[info]imtboo
2008-01-29 03:29 am UTC (link)
yay !
such good news.
i am sure you will find the partner that will be right for you.

i am guessing.... drugs ?

you do not need to lose weight. not from when i saw you anyway !


xoxo

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[info]outintexas
2008-01-29 04:13 am UTC (link)
Yeah, I'm pretty sure drugs are involved at this point. It's just too "text-book".

And yeah, I need to lose weight. Well, at least redistribute it. I put on at least 15 lbs since I saw you, and simply don't fit in my clothes.

I'm about to start a program to get better, and exercise a bit more, and eat a bit (hopfully a lot) better. I wouldn't actually mind staying the same "weight" as long as I lose a lot of body fat and transition it to actual muscle tone and bulk :-)

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[info]beckyb
2008-01-29 04:36 am UTC (link)
Yay for emotional maturity-- no matter how long it takes to find some. This really sounds like it isn't about you at all. It's tough to not have closure but, well, we don't always get it. Meanwhile, I'm glad you are finding your friends.

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[info]outintexas
2008-01-29 05:03 am UTC (link)
Yeah, I'm the kind of person that craves closure, that lives to understand and "figure out" and "know"... it's the scientist in me. It's really hard to accept that he would be so cruel as to not give me the one simple thing I need: an explanation. But that looks to be exactly what he is, so I just have to live with it, accept it, and move on. I can't imagine anything I could have said or done that would justify his behavior towards me, and frankly, there simply isn't anything that could have possibly happened to justify this. It's inexcusable. So I guess that's just going to have to be that. I'm a grown up, and there's no sense in crying over spilled milk.

Best thing to come out of this is reconnecting with friendships that had lain a bit fallow of late, and making new connections on top of it all.

Always look for the silver lining :-)

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[info]beckyb
2008-01-29 01:15 pm UTC (link)
Sounds good (except sometimes, crying helps if you're really sad about the spilt milk, even as you grow to accept the loss...).

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[info]outintexas
2008-01-30 05:10 am UTC (link)
I cried enough a week ago. But he's being a complete dick right now, and isn't worth crying over any more.

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[info]liralen
2008-01-29 06:47 pm UTC (link)
Yeah... I know about craving closure... *sigh*

Sorry it happened that way.

I'm glad that you're figuring out what you need, right now, to heal up or at least ignore the loss for a bit. And it's very, very good to have friends.

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[info]outintexas
2008-01-30 05:09 am UTC (link)
Well, I wish so many of my bestest friends didn't live in other states at least a thousand miles away :-/

Thank *god* for the Internet :-)

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